Monday Mixup: Question time!
A friend on Facebook recently asked an intetesting question I would love to pose to you all:
Can a man who grew up with no father present be a good father himself?
It is definitely quite difficult for a male who never had the direct influence of a father, or female with no mother for that matter, to know how to be the best parent possible. Can a man know the best way to interact with his child if he never had a father to show how?
Note: The opinions expressed in this post are solely mine.
Granted, a child in a nuclear family has the possibility of becoming a terrible parent whether learning through neglect or seeing bad parenting first-hand. However, every situation is different.
There is a clear “right and wrong” in society, but what about personal rights and wrongs? For example, some parents believe in physical punishment while others would never see that as acceptable. Is one truly right over the other? There are people out there who could argue either way. So, can a son who was not able to directly experience any “wrongs” done to him know what is wrong for his son?
I believe a son can learn to be a good father. Okay, the word good is subjective. Whether he had a father or not, outside influences can still play a big part in his life. Seeing how other fathers interact with their sons, having an older brother or uncle treat him with more or less respect, or having a family friend act as a father figure can truly change how a child believes he should be when he is older. Now, once in a while we come across children who hold no grudges on their family for any mistreatment and become some of the best parents we know.
The original question really does lend itself to others. How about a daughter who never had a mother- can she be a proper mother to her daughter? You know that thought that says you can judge how a man will treat a woman based on how he treats his mother? What if he only had a father? Will this make him a bad husband or father to his daughter? What about women who have no fathers?
What are your thoughts? Do you believe a son can be a good father without having had one himself? Or is he, in the end, set up for failure? Can he learn to become better though outside influences?
I would love to hear from you!
Until next time…